8 Ways To Overcome A Bad Mood
We’ve all been there. We’ve all had crap days that left us feeling angry, resentful, depressed, anxious, etc. This post is about dealing with those emotions, those tough emotions that can take over your day (or your week!) if you’re not careful.
I’m not going to lie, this is post is probably going to sound easy compared to the reality. But please be gentle with yourself. You’re human and you’re an emotional being. It’s completely okay to FEEL whatever it is that you’re feeling, just don’t allow it to swallow you up.
- Pace yourself. If you want to have a glass of wine to take the edge off then fine. Go enjoy it. Fill it to the brim if you really want to. But when that glass is done, that’s it. Do not have glass after glass until you’ve finished 3 bottles and passed out on the couch. No matter what you’re feeling right now, it’s nowhere near as terrible as you’re going to feel tomorrow when you wake up hungover.
It’s important to remain self-aware when you’re in the stage of intense anger or grief.
- Diet. It’s SO easy to reach for the carbs when you’re not feeling as great as usual, but I promise you (just like the 3 bottles of wine) you WILL FEEL WORSE. I’m not going to deny that the crunch of the chips or the tub of ice cream doesn’t help in it’s own way, but just like the wine, pace yourself. Do what you can to incorporate protein in every meal to maintain a somewhat healthy diet.
It’s also important to mention that food is fuel. Not eating at all is just as terrible for you as over eating. Eating junk ALL day long is going to make you feel shittier than if you just had one BigMac with large fries. Mindful eating is important, but so is not guilting yourself for not making the best food decision in that moment. If you want the piece of chocolate, eat it and enjoy it. But don’t go overboard and don’t shame yourself afterwards for eating it.
- Reiki. I’d highly suggest attending a Reiki session, whether it’s in person or a distance session. Reiki clears energetic imbalances and guess what, when our emotions are out of whack, so is the rest of us! Reiki will not only help to balance your emotions, but will help you to release the emotions that are gnawing at you, and yes, that could mean that it triggers an hour long ugly crying session on your bathroom floor. But like I always tell my clients, Crying is good! Crying = healing.
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- Cry your face off – To piggy back off of the previous point, don’t be afraid to cry and for god sakes don’t attempt to hold it all in. Whether it’s tears, or screaming LET. IT. OUT. When did it become not okay to show our emotions anyway?
When we were kids we would cry if we were sad. If we were angry we’d scream and hell yes, would have a full blown tantrum at times. If you need a tantrum, go full out. Holding it all in is only going to make things worse, and not to mention it affects your physical body when you hold it all in as well!
This part sucks, and unfortunately it’s THE most important tip I have for you today. You need to feel the feels, even when they’re uncomfortable. When you’re happy, you’re not afraid to smile or jump up and down or fist pump the air. So when you sad or angry, don’t deny yourself of the same experience. Go punch a pillow or scream into it if that’s more your thing.
If you want to read more about this, you can check out an earlier blog I wrote on the Importance of acknowledging your feelings
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Exercise has been proven to boost your mood.
5. Exercise – This isn’t going to make it all go away but oh god will those endorphins increase your mood. When I have pent up anger or frustration I LOVE punching the shit out of my punching bag. When I need to cry, I turn to Kundalini yoga. Choose whatever exercise makes you feel good.
And for the record, I’m not saying you need to spend an hour sweating your ass off. Just a few minutes will work wonders. If 10 minutes is all you can manage, then that’s absolutely fine.
Remember, it’s about being gentle with yourself. Don’t set expectations, and if you can’t help yourself, then at least don’t talk down to yourself when you don’t meet those expectations.
6. Let it go. I’m not going to pretend for a second that this is easy. But I will emphasize how important it is.
This is something that I personally struggle with. I can acknowledge what is happening and how I’m feeling about it but, being a professional over thinker, it’s hard for me to let it go.
But I did come across this article that walks through some steps to let go of bottled up emotions.
7. Talk It Out. Whether it’s calling up your best friend and venting or talking it out with your therapist, it’s important to get it all off your chest.
This is not only good for your health but also provides the opportunity for a different perspective.
Talking it out usually calms you down, which allows you to review the situation with fresh eyes. You may notice that what happened was a good thing, even if it was unexpected. Or maybe at this point, you’re now able to understand the actions of the person who upset you.
If you don’t have a therapist handy or aren’t able to confide in someone close to you, I’d suggest taking advantage of the many therapy apps that are out there (like Talkspace or Betterhelp). Depending on the app you are able to chat with a licensed psychologist, counsellor, or social worker through phone conversations, texts, video calls or email.
There is much less of a stigma against mental health now as there was 10 years ago, so please don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed to reach out to a professional if you need someone to talk to.
- Journal – If you know me AT ALL, then you’re not surprised that I threw journaling in here lol. Sometimes getting out of your own head and seeing things from a fresh perspective is exactly what you need. What better way to do that then to journal?
If you’re pissed, write about it! If you’re grieving and can hardly stand up long enough to make it to the kitchen to grab some food, let your tears fall on the page as you explore your feelings.
We’ve all gotten so used to burying our feelings and doing everything we can to avoid everything that is happening. It’s okay to not be okay all the time.
Anger, Sadness, Grief, Depression, Stress, Anxiety. They all happen. It’s OKAY to feel them and to experience them. Pushing them all down and pretending that everything is okay is not going to help you. Take it from someone who is a professional at sweeping things under the rug and now has some serious issues with her neck, back, shoulders, liver, wrist….. Because you’re issues are in your tissues. Whatever you refuse to let go of, will manifest itself in other ways.
Once you’ve moved passed your extreme feelings, I would suggest getting a Chakra balancing. You can purchase an online distance session, see a local healer or even tune into some chakra videos on YouTube.
The purpose behind balancing your chakras after these intense emotions is to release them from your energy field. Similar to how Reiki will balance your emotions, Chakra balancing will remove the unhealthy or stagnant energy.
When a Chakra is blocked or closed, it manifests itself into physical ailments such as headaches, migraines, low back pain, digestive issues and sore throat (just to name a few).
A blocked chakra can also manifest into daily issues such as relationship issues, money issues or low self-esteem. Balancing and clearing your chakras will really help to avoid the backlash these negative emotions had on you.
If you want to learn more about Chakras, feel free to check out my free video series