You have big plans in your business but you seem to have a hard time accomplishing them or even feeling motivated. Not sure why? It could be a classic case of Self-Sabotage.
What Is Self Sabotage?
Self-Sabotage is essentially when you get in your own way. When you plan to create that YouTube video, write that blog, Follow up with that lead, but you find literally anything else to do instead. Regularly. This is more than just having a day when you’re not in the mood. This is a common theme.
How To Overcome Self Sabotage
This doesn’t have to be a month in advance but I do recommend at least 2-5 days in advance. If your calendar says to upload that podcast episode today between 4 and 5, then upload that podcast episode. If it’s not on your calendar for today and isn’t something that is absolutely urgent that came up earlier today (like maybe a client is having a crisis and needs your attention right now – that’s different). But for normal day to day, if it’s on your calendar, that’s what you’re doing. The end
Put your phone away. Put it in another room entirely to avoid distraction. We do our best work when we’re focused but we insist on living in a world full of distractions. Think of how much faster you’d be done your tasks if you weren’t reaching for your phone every 5 minutes (also, if you haven’t seen The Social Dilemma yet on Netflix, I highly suggest watching it, it’s definitely a swift kick to convince you to step away from the phone every now and then… If you insist on having your phone in the same room, then put it face down on silent so you can focus, and out of reach so you’re not tempted to reach for it and start scrolling through Facebook.
Actually I’m going to challenge you right now. For ONE hour today, leave your phone in another room while you do some work. Take note of all the times you go to reach for your phone out of complete habit, then let me know the number in the comments below.
You cannot get any work done if you’re constantly being interrupted. Make it clear to your family that when you’re in this room, or on these days between these times, you’re not to be disturbed. It’s impossible to take care of yourself, your entire family, your baking, dinner prep, homework, planning social media content, and building a business all at the exact same time. Schedule both your personal time and time to work on your business and communicate to your family, that you need this time to do work… and to not bother you unless the house is on fire. The world can wait for one hour while you write your next blog post.
I know, for those of you have been following me for a while, I can hear you from here rolling your eyes and saying “omg again!?!?!” BUT hear me out
This doesn’t need to be a daily three hour long process. It can really only take about 10 minutes. It’s up to you if you want to do this in the morning or in the evening, But I encourage you to break out your journal and quickly note what your original to do list was and what you actually ended up accomplishing. For the things that you didn’t accomplish or that took you way longer than expected to complete, write down why.
Take note of any common themes.
Does it always take you way longer than expected to format and schedule your blog posts? Is it worth it to have them constantly put you behind schedule? Maybe it’s something you can delegate and you can consider hiring a VA to help you manage the workload
Every single time you go to create social media content for the week, do you notice you only got 1 or 2 posts done because you spend half an hour scrolling through Instagram to see what all the other coaches are doing instead? Consider writing your posts at a different time, maybe you’re actually more creative and inspired first thing in the morning instead of just before bed. Or consider putting your phone in another room and see if it improves your results.
This isn’t to be judgmental of yourself, it’s simply to notice any patterns, either in tasks or in things that distract you or make you procrastinate and self-sabotage.
Unfortunately there’s no “do this one thing and you will end self-sabotage for good” and if someone out there is saying that, I’d be weary. Self-sabotage is honestly a daily occurrence. Or at least something you need to be aware of daily. It’s important to remain consistent, set boundaries and to have a good support system in place, whether that’s a coach (like myself) or someone else, or a biz bestie… someone to call you out when you’re getting in your own way.
If while you’re journaling you notice you always procrastinate on one particular thing and you realize it’s because every time you do it, you feel a little icky, then it could be because you’re out of alignment. It’s possible to be out of alignment in just one area of your business, and is actually way easier to manage than being completely out of alignment in all areas of your business. But if you think this may be the case, then you can grab my free PDF, the soul alignment road map. This is a 20+ page document that goes over being out of alignment and helps you to overcome it.
I’ve personally used all the suggestions in the Soul Alignment Roadmap, and I know for a fact they work. They’ve all helped me in their own way to overcome my self sabotage and it creeps up into my life pretty infrequently now, because I’m able to identify it and stop it in it’s tracks. Grab your copy now and don’t forget to let me know how it contributes to reducing your self sabotage!
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